The start of 2012 was full of excitement. I was starting to feel less nausea, starting to get that pregnancy glow and really excited for the months to come. We spent hours making Avery’s room just perfect. We had doctor’s appointments, ultrasounds, the joy of hearing her heartbeat; so much of the beginning of 2012 was about her and us getting ready for her. May approached and so did our fears about being parents. We both wanted to be amazing for her. As May ended, labor neared. June 5th-the big day! We were induced! Avery had other plans and after laboring for 16 hours, Avery pushed her birthday to June 6th when she entered this world. She was perfect! Our lives were forever changed! June 8th, we took our little girl home so full of excitement. June 9th the three of us celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary. We enjoyed 6 amazing days in June. June 12th our world was rocked. Avery left us. The rest of 2012 is a blur. But what I do know was the rest of the year was about her too; writing to her, finding ways to remember her, sharing her story, sharing her pictures, etc. 2012 was completely about Avery.Now time is once again forcing me further away from the time I had with Avery. I am full of trepidation as the year comes to an end. I don’t want it to end. I want to be in 2012, her year, forever. After thinking about my anxiety over the New Year for a while, I realize that I know 2012 is always going to be her year and even when 2082 rolls around, 2012 will still be her year and no matter how far I am from the time she was here, she will always be with me.
What I think gets me the most is that 2012 made me realize that life sometimes does not go as you had planned. We spent so much time planning for Avery, so much time thinking about how we saw our lives turning out and yet here I am, nowhere close to living the life I had planned. 2012 was supposed to be the best year of my life. I had a plan entering 2012 but God had a different plan. This in itself scares me. This shakes me to my core. No matter how much I plan, I realize those plans can be tossed out the window.So as 2012 comes to a close and 2013 looms on the horizon, I am scared. I like to be in control. I like to have a plan. I like knowing what to expect. 2012 taught me that I am not in control. But while I am scared, I also know that I have a God that loves me and wants good for me. I have a God who wants me to allow Him to be in control.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11.While I don’t understand God’s plan, I do know that He is in control and His plan is in place. I should not fear the future knowing this. God can do more through me that I can do by myself. 2013 looks like a big question mark to me but I know God has a plan and as scary as that is for me, I am working on accepting that. I pray that I can truly allow God to work through me in 2013 and lead me down the path he has planned.
Some things I hope are part of God’s plan for me in 2013
· Growing in God’s word
· Finishing Avery’s memorial playground
· Finding a SIDS organization to be a part of
· Focusing on my marriage
· Getting healthy
I pray each of you who reads this allows God to use you in 2013.